Today I am savouring an afternoon where I have a little solitude to reflect on this past weekend. It is Thanksgiving Monday here is Canada. My son is spending an afternoon to play with his father and I am using my contemplative mood as inspiration for this blog post. I was born and raised in a small town where the people are friendly to one another, but I never really felt like I belong here. I am the observer who learns a great deal about people when I drink my coffee quietly. This practice led to me learning a great deal about human nature. We all crave a sense of community and belonging. I spent the first half of my adult life attending university away from my small town then I worked overseas as a teacher. Both of these experiences have enriched my life in unexpected ways. Karina touches on a lot of the struggles that a highly sensitive person can go through in her video. I hope that you find it to be insightful into those who are sensitive.
Dr. Laura Koniver, MD, discusses in this video how the energy center of the heart chakra can influence the physical health of your body. The heart chakra when out of balance can affect health conditions like breast cancer, heart disease, back pain and fibromyalgia. She mentions different visualization and breathing techniques to re-align the heart chakra back into balance so the energy flows in a healthy manner. An energy imbalance can have a big impact on your physical, emotional and mental health.
Perk Up Your Day
I sit in front of my computer typing this blog post in bright red sweat pants and curled up in a cozy black fleece jacket lined in faux fur. Both of these appeal to my need today to be comfortable and warm as it’s a chilly autumn day where I will be close to home. Whether I am spending a day chasing my toddler at the playground or attending an art opening I want to feel good in what I wear. Fashion is one way to express who we are to the world outside ourselves. What we wear can have a very big impact on how we feel about ourselves.
I came across this short segment on Cityline, a Canadian talk show, about ways to boost your mood through what you wear. Cityline is a show that I view on a daily basis as the segments are always interesting on a variety of topics from cooking to fashion. Each day of the week revolves around a specific topic like beauty or family. The show is a breath of fresh air from the pessimistic television news or violent prime time television.
The details can be what makes the most impact. As a busy mom, if I can make a little effort then it makes me feel like I am still a beautiful and sexy woman. A scarf can elevate a basic outfit to a level where it becomes very chic. I love to throw on a scarf or a hat to change things up when I head out my door. A cross body bag is a practical solution when out running errands or going to work. Your choice of shoe illustrates who you are and what you do with your day. Even when you choose to purchase a coat with a pattern, or to choose something more traditional like a grey or black wool makes a statement beyond the need to dress warm.
Clothing can be a great creative expression that allows us to shine our inner light to the world. What’s also wonderful is how thrift or consignment shopping can lead to some great quality finds. Most of my “investment pieces” were purchased in this way as I have champagne tastes but a beer budget. So it is definitely worth having some fun with the hunt and experimenting to find your own person style!
We were one with galaxy’s center,
one divided into two,
carrying part of the other’s fire.
You are the wind up key for the clockwork,
a mechanism that I don’t comprehend,
only known to one watchmaker.
You are the charcoal,
activating the painful purge,
a poison keeping me comatose.
You cut open the snake bite,
sucking out the venom,
then spitting it on the ground.
You are the surgeon,
who must cut carefully around the bullet,
before it travels to my heart.
You are my soul’s catalyst,
a rare sacrifice to love so deeply,
to hurt just enough to heal.
This video is a Ted Talks event done by Gala Darling in 2012 on the subject of Radical Self Love. She hits on the frightening statistic that only 4% of women view themselves as beautiful. She offers some interesting suggestions to get started on the journey to self love that include a radical self love journal. It is never satisfying to seek validation outside yourself when the true sources needs to be you. This is a journey that I am beginning myself as I am tired of feeling uncomfortable in my own skin. That discomfort means that a change in how I relate to myself is needed.
Disguised in peasant robes you are
slowly awakening to your magical inheritance
Excalibur’s hilt flickers in the sunlight
rest of the sword sheathed upon your back
where are you going brave wizard?
you go where I can’t follow
watching your reflection through the water
my realm is for the battle weary warrior
who finishes the hero’s quest
my curse is to keep your secrets, Merlin
you will hear me whispering your name on the wind
so you do not forget your promise
to return Home even if it takes you eons.
Inside drawers and her trunk she hid
her independent gypsy soul
losing a husband inside his mind too soon
raising my mother and her siblings
on a resourcefulness honed from a young age
auburn hair and an even quicker wit
there is still sparkle in those tired eyes
inheriting the scarves of many colours
muted gray and blue cashmere plaid
blue delicate flowers with silver threads
red and pink sunset crepe that glides
shimmering, silky crimson, magenta and pink
they hang next to my own scarves of many colours
gently reminding me that of my own independent gypsy spirit
who emerges to play amidst autumn’s beautiful colours.