She Don’t Know

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Last night I lie awake in my bed with my mind wandering to thoughts of how women reject their appearance. We are taught by the media from an early age that beauty fits into narrow constructs. At least it was that way when I was a teenager and a young woman. I feel that we had our self esteem eroded away to keep a consumer economy going that plugs into our dissatisfied egos.

What would happen if we embraced our natural state of beauty? What would happen if we bought products that made us feel good? What if we allowed ourselves to be seen in our authentic uniqueness? Maybe we could  start a self love revolution. Gala Darling wrote about radical self acceptance. Radical acceptance is accepting and loving every aspect of yourself as is.

I took the photograph above last night on my cell phone after I had put my son to bed. I am not wearing any make up. I am wearing my glasses, a favourite t-shirt and I feel peaceful after a busy day. I feel very beautiful in this photo because I am my natural and authentic self. I am comfortable in my own skin.

It wasn’t until I hit my mid-thirties that I started to feel beautiful in my own skin. I was bullied as a young girl for carrying extra weight. I developed early as a teenager, so I became very self conscious about my curves. There were rejections by men in my twenties for who I thought were prettier women. There were the men who paid compliments to try to get what they wanted.

When you feel uncomfortable in your skin it affects different aspects of your life in negative ways. It resulted in limited success in the career that I pursued. We choose behaviors that can be unhealthy and people who do not support us in being true to ourselves.

As I heal those wounds around rejecting myself then my life begins to shift. I attract new friends and relationships when I am true to my self.  I receive new opportunities to use my talents and skills in ways that bring joy to the world around me. I develop a deeper spiritual relationship with God when I am who he created me to be.

Below in the comments please share with me what makes you unique and beautiful.

Amanda Daoust

Train Wrecks

You are a beautiful disaster,

I love your messiness,

Reminds me to love my imperfections,

We collide into each other,

Setting off a chain reaction.

It could be a train wreck,

Or the lotus emerging from the mud,

White, pure and oh so beautiful!

All I know is that I love you.

Women’s Locker Room

smell of sweat mingled with feminine mystique

it’s just her who briskly towels off

quick shower aftermath at 6 am

aching muscles screaming after winning against herself

pushing past her own personal best

it’s too early for the crowd

who cluck and peck as their flaws:

” My ass is too big…

what can I do to get a thigh gap…

how many crunches does it take to get a flat stomach…”

she runs the brush through her hair

zips up her jacket before smiling in the mirror

morning secret for just herself

 

Beauty in Mess

Beauty in Mess

I took this photograph about a month ago near an old railway bridge. I found the pile of wood and the crack behind it to be interesting visually. There can be beauty even in the mess. Life is definitely this way especially on a rainy morning where this blogger did not sleep well the night before. Hope that all of you have a great day.

Amanda

Dove Real Beauty Sketches

Dove did an interesting social experiment where they had women describe themselves to a forensic sketch artist who was separated from them by a curtain. Later on these same women had a sketch done by the same artist who had someone else who met them for the first time describe their physical appearance to the artist. What is most interesting is the difference between how each woman describes herself and how a complete stranger sees her.

There are more posts on Youtube where the artist, and each of the women describe what the experiment was like for each of them. With one woman in particular there is a startling difference between how she sees herself and how a stranger remembers her face. Do you think that most of us are very self-critical of our physical appearance?

As a woman, I grew into my teen years bombarded by the media’s depiction of unrealistic standards of beauty. These images negatively reinforce a young woman’s self-esteem that the constant nit-picking in the mirror blocks her from succeeding in other areas of her life. What struck me is how the men in the video talked about certain features of a woman’s face rather than flaws.

Perhaps, we could all do more with seeing our own unique beauty rather than trying to fit an unattainable standard. It is something that I hope to encourage in all the other women in my life.

Amanda