She Don’t Know

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Last night I lie awake in my bed with my mind wandering to thoughts of how women reject their appearance. We are taught by the media from an early age that beauty fits into narrow constructs. At least it was that way when I was a teenager and a young woman. I feel that we had our self esteem eroded away to keep a consumer economy going that plugs into our dissatisfied egos.

What would happen if we embraced our natural state of beauty? What would happen if we bought products that made us feel good? What if we allowed ourselves to be seen in our authentic uniqueness? Maybe we could  start a self love revolution. Gala Darling wrote about radical self acceptance. Radical acceptance is accepting and loving every aspect of yourself as is.

I took the photograph above last night on my cell phone after I had put my son to bed. I am not wearing any make up. I am wearing my glasses, a favourite t-shirt and I feel peaceful after a busy day. I feel very beautiful in this photo because I am my natural and authentic self. I am comfortable in my own skin.

It wasn’t until I hit my mid-thirties that I started to feel beautiful in my own skin. I was bullied as a young girl for carrying extra weight. I developed early as a teenager, so I became very self conscious about my curves. There were rejections by men in my twenties for who I thought were prettier women. There were the men who paid compliments to try to get what they wanted.

When you feel uncomfortable in your skin it affects different aspects of your life in negative ways. It resulted in limited success in the career that I pursued. We choose behaviors that can be unhealthy and people who do not support us in being true to ourselves.

As I heal those wounds around rejecting myself then my life begins to shift. I attract new friends and relationships when I am true to my self.  I receive new opportunities to use my talents and skills in ways that bring joy to the world around me. I develop a deeper spiritual relationship with God when I am who he created me to be.

Below in the comments please share with me what makes you unique and beautiful.

Amanda Daoust

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Tuesday’s Reflections : Heal the Ouch

Forgiveness is the healer of the  soul.

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This week’s oracle card builds upon the healing began during  last week’s reflection. Forgiveness  of others and yourself  is only a starting  point in the  healing process .  “Heal the Ouch” is a  card that I  drew from  The Enchanted  Map oracle deck. The soul can  be  like a  compass, when we align it to God, our True North. Meanings attached to this card indicate that this is  a  time where soothing  your body, heart, soul and mind is the  focus. If you, dear Reader, resonate with this card then perhaps study  the healing arts, so you can  develop your natural  abilities to restore  wellness in others. It can also point to making an oath to do no harm through your thoughts, words and actions. This card may mean that reconciliations are possible in a  broken  relationship. The theme  of  healing and  connecting  to  others during  the  process has been  a  theme of my life for a  long  time  now. We are  both the masterpiece  and the  work in progress at the  same  time  as we heal.

Amanda  Daoust

Angel Reflections: Forgiveness

Dear subscribers,

You will notice that this  week’s  posts are going to be  organized  in a  different manner  than what I was doing. Previously I was  publishing sporadically with either lots  of  blog posts, or long  durations  between publication dates. My goal is  to aim for publication  on Monday, Wednesday  and Friday. Each day will revolve around a different  theme.

There  was  a  point about two  weeks  ago  where I  was  thinking  about  deleting my blog posts, and  starting fresh  or taking  a long break from blogging. I’m  not  the same person  that  I  was in 2012, so it makes  sense  that my creative  outlet would transform too. A reader sent me an email two  weeks  ago that prompted me to give the  blog another look. She said how she could  see how healing it is  to connect  to  others. That was  the  core reason  why I  started writing on WordPress about healing, spirituality, love and connection in the first place.

My upcoming posts will be revolving  around the  content about those topics. If you enjoy what I  write  then please share my posts via social  media, such as, Twitter  and  Facebook. Whether you  are  sitting  on  the  bus or in a  cafe sipping  coffee; I  am  certain  someone near you  has known heart break. We hold space for others to  be their  authentic  selves, and  to remember  their wholeness by expressing the  truth of our personal  journeys.

What  I will be  doing on Monday is to write a  reflection  to start the  week  based on  drawing  an oracle card, or a spiritual  quotation. I  drew the  card “Forgiveness” from the  Healing  with the  Angels oracle  deck by Doreen Virtue.

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“Let go of anger and resentment, and  feel  yourself healed. You don’t  need  to  forgive the action, just the person, so that you  can  be at peace.” (Virtue p. 21).

We all face times where someone  has said  or done something  that  hurt us. If we are  unforgiving then we can  slowly poison  ourselves with anger and  resentment. It takes great strength to forgive someone even  if  an apology  is never received. There are  times where I  didn’t  deserve  forgiveness and  have received it, so why not  give someone  else  the gift of  grace. Forgiveness is a  great act of  unconditional  love. It is  also  one of  the  most challenging to do.

It is  an even greater act of  self love to forgive yourself  when you  have  done  or said wrong  to others. There is something beautiful  when someone tries to right their mistakes  and start over. Perhaps  we need to show compassion to those who are  trying  to  better  themselves . We are imperfect human  beings  trying  to  bumble our way through  this existence.

Wishing all  of  you  a blessed  week,

Amanda Daoust

A Heart’s Visit

Paths intersect for a brief moment,
I wonder if a meeting…
Can change the heart’s direction?
Only One outside time and space knows,
Heart heals and light glows again,
Through the cracks and beautiful scars,
I hope some day to see you again,
And be able to call you, friend.
Your heart telling me…
Where it has been since we parted,
Like a spiral we return to where we started.

The Necessary Betrayal

Hello everyone,

My previous blog post to this one was dated back in December just shortly after my father passed away as a result of a long two year battle with cancer. The grief is still at times very raw and fresh. My sensitive heart needed time away from writing when I could not even string together a coherent thought beyond coping with my day to day experiences. As a mother, my limited energy needed to be channeled towards caring for my son. I realized recently that I have been operating from a state of depletion when I give to others in my various relationships whether that is my spouse, son, family members or my friends. One cannot give to others if you have nothing to share. Veronica Krestow shares a personal experience where she had to make a very difficult choice to put her needs first before those of a loved one, and examines the difference between giving to satisfy your ego and genuinely giving from a space of love. I recently made a similar choice in my own life that was very difficult, but I know intuitively will have a far better result for all those involved. Hope that you can find some wisdom from Veronica sharing her personal story.

Amanda

Heart Chakra: How to Balance

Dr. Laura Koniver, MD, discusses in this video how the energy center of the heart chakra can influence the physical health of your body. The heart chakra when out of balance can affect health conditions like breast cancer, heart disease, back pain and fibromyalgia. She mentions different visualization and breathing techniques to re-align the heart chakra back into balance so the energy flows in a healthy manner. An energy imbalance can have a big impact on your physical, emotional and mental health.

A Difficult Gift

We were one with galaxy’s center,

one divided into two,

carrying part of the other’s fire.

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You are the wind up key for the clockwork,

a mechanism that I don’t comprehend,

only known to one watchmaker.

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You are the charcoal,

activating the painful purge,

a poison keeping me comatose.

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You cut open the snake bite,

sucking out the venom,

then spitting it on the ground.

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You are the surgeon,

who must cut carefully around the bullet,

before it travels to my heart.

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You are my soul’s catalyst,

a rare sacrifice to love so deeply,

to hurt just enough to heal.